Relationships #4: For the Guys

I'm bringing it back. I have more to say about relationships, dating, etc. Today, it's only for the guys. Next post I have will be for the girls. But to start off this thing, I'd like to say one thing to clarify: I don't get girls. Most guys don't. So...ladies, I will probably get some/most things wrong. If I do, please, by all means let me know! But today I am writing to the guys reading this, and what we can do about dating in High School. (Yupp...this one's only for High schoolers...because I don't know about the dating scenario beyond that age. I'm 16, remember?)

Here's the first step. So. You like this girl, right? Yeah...that one your thinking of RIGHT now. Yeah. Her. You wanna ask her out, correct? Okay. That's awesome! Let me tell you something. I got some rules for myself that you might wanna follow:

1. Don't EVER get your friend to ask her out. This happened to me...but I actually didn't know my friend got the date for me until the girl called me the next day. It was all good later, but...nevertheless...you gotta man up and do it in person. That leads me to my next point...

2. Don't EVER text a girl, asking her out. Okay...maybe calling her is alright. But still. When I like a girl...I will for real wanna go out of my way, buy flowers, get up all in my suit, and ask her out in person. Her saying yes will all be worth it. Okay. For the one girl (You know who you are!) that knows that I actually have asked you out in a text, I still feel utterly silly about that. Oh, silly 14 year old me. Oh, silly Nathan.

3. Don't ask her out if you don't wanna commit. Some girls I know have dated a lot of jerks, losers, and guys who just don't treat her right. I wish y'all would just stop. I hear about it on Facebook, Twitter, from the actual girl, whatever. It's kinda sad. Some guys don't think with their heart. Wanna call that gay? Nah it's cool bro, I don't mind. Because it really is true. One night, a guy will be feeling lonely, or just want some girls attention, and'll sweet talk the girl into falling for him. Later on, the guy will end it, and the girl will just feel betrayed. (I'm not saying that girls don't do this too...but that's another topic.) For me, when I like someone, I wait a long time to make sure. I want to give them the most respect I can possibly give! There's this one girl I've liked for a long time. And even though I wanted to make my move the first day I saw her, I just waited. I've tried to before, but it's still never been the "Right time." At least I know what kind of choices I make, and don't just act on a whim.

4. You might be surprised, but some guys (No...not me...) believe that dating in Highschool, College, etc is just like in the movies. Um. WRONG. Hollywood tries to tell you false information to make you believe that you'll just have to do the right amount of things and that tall, rich blonde you see in the movies will fall right into your hands. Nope. False story bro. Doesn't happen. 

5. I'll say it one more time, in case you didn't hear me. RESPECT HER. Be the type of guy her parents would approve of. I try to be the guy that will make that girl one of the most important things in my life. Not just the girl who makes the sandwhiches. Because I know some of y'all have said that to a girl! Which brings me to my NEXT point...

6. Joke? Nah. Don't ever "punch" the girl, or "tease" her by making fun of her. Unless she's cool with your humor, girls don't like to be picked on. It's even annoying for me. My friend says "Ahh, your such an idiot! Oh just kidding bro you know I don't mean that right you know what I mean...." and 2 minutes later he'll do something just like that. STOP. It's annoying, rude, and something only guys should do to each other...sometimes.

7. One thing guys do a lot is act completely different after they get the girl. Some will look like the nicest guy before the two start dating, and when they are together he acts like someone else. Or, the guy just doesn't show like he cares that much. That's a mistake. If you really want that girl...and you actually got her, don't stop making her feel special. Be the type of guy that will always put her first around others, not just at home. Be the guy that let's your S.O know that she's not embarrassed to be around you. She'll be so much happier. One, because she feels important. But two, because most guys just don't do that kind of stuff.

8. Here's the last, and most important thing to remember. Be her best friend! No...don't be her best friend to "get more out of it", because that's not the direction you wanna go. You wanna get to her heart? Be that closest friend that will always be there for her. Even if y'all don't communicate for a while, and y'all have your ups and downs, don't ever stop just being her friend. If she seems interested in being more than friends...well, I think you can figure it out from there, guys.

Just a thought.

True Friends

Today I'm gonna be telling you guys about something that's been on my mind for a while. Everyone has friends (unless your the Forever Alone guy), haha. But anyway, what some realize is that the people you hang out with can either be really close, or just someone that knows of you. And also, that it really is true that the 5 people you are close friends with can have a pretty powerful impact on how you act, and how people perceive you to be.

My friend Jonathan is probably going to read this one to my face and embarrass me, but I'll say it anyway! If you don't know him already, Jonathan's one of my closest friends. He has a pretty big impact on my life, and vice versa. So much so that a lot of people say we look, dress, and act alike. Probably cause I've known him forever! And we're both pretty cool guys! But my point is, he is a strong Christian, extremely nice, and is hilarious! And I see that in myself as well. There are other people that I have a close friendship with, and I really cherish that. So I just wanted to have y'all know that. Watch who you be around...it will impact you more than you know. Sometimes for me, as a Christian, it's hard for me to stay righteous, because I would meet someone that might drag me down a little. But that's why you have to always stay in touch with your close friends who will never bring you down. BUT YET...that's the other thing. Sometimes your close friends can really be bringing you down. So again. Just watch out.

Another thing. I'll see people get crushed by what their "Close friends" say. Sometimes, you'll know someone that you are really close to...and one day, they'll just treat you like they don't even know you. I'm sure some of you reading this have been there. I have! And it's not cool, right? It's hard. I know. Just know that sometimes, you ARE gonna have those times. I won't get into the "God's always your friend" topic. You already know that. Bahaha. But anyway...I hope all that makes sense.

Just a thought.

A time for Change

2012 is upon us. A new year, a new start. A fresh change, a fresh beginning. But for some of us, I think we are holding onto the past, and not letting go.

This one's gonna be short and sweet, because the message is simple.

Okay so, I've definitely had problems in my life. Granted, I'm so blessed to be raised in a Christian family, so I don't ever have to worry about growing up in a bad family. It's just normal, growing up problems. We all have them. When your a kiddo, it was trying to reach the cookie jar. (<--My huge dilemma.) When you start to get older, sometimes it's passing that test, reaching that big deadline, losing a loved one, deciding on what to wear, how to lose weight, or finding the right way to ask out that girl. Whatever it is, we can all relate to each other in the fact that we hold on to things we don't enjoy, along with the good things.
Near the end of 2011, I looked back on the year. There was a lot of good times! But other not so great times as well. Since I was still holding on to one particular thing I did (that was, aahh, just extremely stupid), I gave it some thought. Also studied the Bible to distract myself. What I realized is this. 2012 is going (and already is) an immensely great year for me! Why should I distract myself with the past? If I messed up in life, it's OKAY. Things happen. You WILL do crazy and dumb stuff. It's a fact. We're not human. That's why God is here for us. So that's what I'm doing this year. I've officially left my past behind, and am looking ahead toward the future. And it's looking very bright.

Basically, you could sit around and think about the bad things that are happening all around you. But know that there's always a new way around things. A second change, a new opportunity, a brand new day. That's a gift that God has given us, and I just believe we should use this new year to change lives, open new doors, and see a brighter future for all of us.

Just a thought.

New Years Eve 2011/Summing the year up!

Well...look where we are. It's been exactly one year since my last blog on New Years. Where was I? Where was I in 2011? And where will I be in 2012? Let's see.

Last year...I was completely different than this moment that I'm writing this. So many things in my life have changed...and some of it is too complicated to explain. I think this time, I'll highlight some of the major things that went down in 2011 for me.

MAJOR:

Beach Retreat: A lot of different things happened that week. I made a lot of new friends. I lost a few. *Sigh.* I got closer to God, and I saw two really good friends of mine that moved to Alabama not too long ago. Roger and Becky Capan. It was so, so, so nice seeing them again! Miss you guys!
Anyway...that week (And a few certain things that went down) would absolutely change the next few months of  my life...and would continue to change me up until this moment. Lots of good things...some not so great...but overall just amazing. I'm so glad I'm apart of Second Baptist and all it has to offer.

South Carolina 2011: I love my family so much! (Almost) every year, we go and see my Aunt, Uncle, and cousins up in SC for about a week. It's so much fun. We hung out between the two families, went to the pool a lot, ate a lot of great food...and had sweet tea about every day...haha!

Galveston: This was so awesome. Me, Charlie, Lucas, and NICKie Dee went to the beach for a week. We explored the town, went Kayak Racing, wrestled with SUPER SHARKS (LOL), got them numbers, and broke a window. Haha yeah. It gets crazy.

ALL the mall visits: In short...I have some interesting experiences at malls. For example...I kind of got on the roof of Memorial City. No big or anything.

N+1: Even though I've been spouting out information about this for a year...it's STILL in development. This web series I'm doing is crazy hard to complete...because there are so many obstacles I have to jump through! I'm just now beginning to film...and it should be out Summer 2012. That's my deadline.

MINOR:

Um...actually now that I think about it the minor events would probably be lame. So, never mind.

Anyway...I've had a lot of good times over this past year. And I expect to have the same this time around. Where will I be this year? Probably still homeschooled, still in Houston, still writing, but making new friends, new talents, new dreams, and new possibilities. I'm not dead yet!

Come at me, Myans.
Just a thought.

New Themes

Lots of different ideas have been thrown around concerning this blog! At one point, I was going to discontinue this page, and work on bigger projects. At one point, I had a "secret project"...and was going to turn this site into a video page, and I would be posting videos instead of blog posts. (Yeah...that was the BIG surprise...silly right? Haha.)

What I think I want to do is include more themes to the site. The main theme so far has been taking big problems that I see and discussing what I think about them. I'm going to put another theme in here, though.
Honestly, the site is a little negative. (Because it consists of negative subjects), I'm also going to add another aspect to it. This would be just anything that I found that is special enough to write on the interwebs, interesting videos, things like that. It will be more of an "All around" media page. I would be, ahem, "Zooming In" to lots of different things. I'm excited about this change. I love writing. And I don't want this blog to die. So giving new life to it will most likely give it a better purpose. Enjoy the upcoming changes, and I'll see you next week!

Just a thought.

Passion

It's what wakes us up every day. It's what drives us to be greater. It's what gets us to be the best we can be. 


It's Passion.


What is passion, anyway?


The definition is: Strong and barely controllable emotion.


People that have that passion are people who enjoy life, for the most part. I know some people who have absolutely no idea where they're going. And that can be depressing. I know this because I have been there! It is sad to know that you don't know why your here. You know, why your even alive; what your living for. I believe we all have those days. So think about this: what if we all just sat down and listed all the good things we have? Because I've learned the lesson that there is always someone better than you, but there is always someone worse off than you. Think about it! 


My passion? Right now? I love writing, and making videos for friends. I'm also involved in ministry at Second Baptist. My life is pretty great at the moment. Although sometimes I can have really bad days (like everyone), I just keep my head up. Just last night, I was struggling with something. But I have ways of dealing with problems. For one, I pray. I don't know if your into that, but It really helps me to just be alone with the Lord. Another thing is to take a walk. Especially with this nice weather coming through Texas recently, you can really enjoy the outside, while thinking about life. It is nice to just kind of be alone from everything for a little while.


I'm sure you have ways of dealing with problems too. But after you get past those, think about the good things that you want to get done! For example...what do you want to be when you grow up? Or if your an adult, what are the best things you've done in life? For me, I love to focus on the good things. And usually some of those things I'm really passionate about; whether that's a job, a test, that cute girl I know, creating the next best idea, or whatever. I believe if you find your passion, you'll find a happy place. And I don't mean that to be weird. I'm serious. Even if nothing else is going well in your life, there is always something you can look toward that you can hold on to. Maybe that's God. Maybe that's your girlfriend/boyfriend. Maybe that's the dream job your working for. Whatever.


All I'm saying is this. I don't want to see anyone down. Because I know that EVERY, single, person has a purpose. And that is really exciting to me! My friends say "I don't know where I'm going in life! I hate myself." I'm with you, guys. Life is hard. But just know that for one: I'm there for you. Two, so is God. And three, there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. Have a great life! Because I know that even when we can get down and we feel like we can't get back up, everyone eventually does, and it all works out just fine.


Just a thought.

9/11 (10 Year Anniversary)

I really don't have much to say about this, because the news pretty much explains it all, but I'm taking this update to honor all the victims of the Attack on the World Trade Center. This is such a tragic day. Me and lots of my friends have been praying for the survivors and their families. If your one of them, God bless you! I hope he has helped you recover from your loss (if your a family member), or helped you with recovering (if you were in one of the buildings). I am praying for all of you. God bless the USA.